Finding Your(KINK) Vice
Det er en del snak om samtykke, at det afhænger af at kunne sige fra. For eksempel:
- At stå op for dig selv i forhandlinger
- Klart at kunne angive dine behov, ønsker, tændinger og grænser
- At acceptere og være i stand til at bruge et stop-ord under legen
Men der er øjeblikke, hvor vores stemmer kan forlade os, f.eks. føler, at alle har investeret for meget i scenen, og vi vil ikke svigte andre, oversvømmet med endorfiner eller adrenalin, genopleve tidligere traumer, forelskelse i din legepartner, autistisk nedlukning – og det er, hvad denne workshop dækker over.
Vi undersøger de mange grunde til, at enhver kan forblive tavs under en kink-scene – uanset om de er nybegyndere eller erfarne spillere. Hvad skal man gøre, hvis nogen bliver trigget, og forskellige strategier til at hjælpe folk med at kommunikere – også selvom de har haft et helt liv med ‘behagelige mennesker’ eller ikke ved, hvem de er.
Erfarings niveau for deltagere: Intet erfarings niveau nødvendig
Hvad skal du medbringe: Ingenting
English Version
A lot of discussion about consent relies on being able to speak up. For example:
- Standing up for yourself in negotiations
- Being able to clearly state your needs, wants, desires and limits
- Agreeing to AND BEING ABLE TO USE a safe word during the scene
But there are occasions when our voices may leave us, e.g. feeling that everyone has invested too much in the scene and we don’t want to let others down, flooded with endorphins or adrenaline, reliving past trauma, falling in love with your play partner, autistic shutdown – and that’s what this workshop covers.
We examine the many reasons why anyone may stay silent during a kink scene – whether they are a novice or experienced player. What to do if someone is triggered, and different strategies to help people communicate – even if they’ve had a lifetime of ‘people pleasing’ or don’t know who they are.
Requirements for participants: None
What to bring: Nothing